SMILE!First Advice is to SMILE! And if not for the camera, then do it for the sake of your marriage. According to studies it has been shown that those who flashed their pearly whites more often in photographs had a higher martial success rate compared to those frowning Debbie Downers. He also says that those who smile more frequently usually have a larger network of friends, which helps keep a marriage healthy. Researchers gathered old college photos of people and rated their smile intensity from one to 10. None of the people who had ranked in the top 10 percent for smile strength had divorced, while one in four people who fell in the bottom portion had a marriage that had ended. The scoring was based on two muscles: the one that pulls up the mouth, and the muscle that creates the laugh lines around the eyes.
Being Too PickyMeeting your mate, a matter of stage in life…or simply hair color? We notice certain aspects of dating and mating that seem to make or break a match that clicks and lasts. Take for example a new client–we’ll call him Rickie–a sharp, nice-looking professional and single dad whose gotten so disgusted with dull dates that, at the age of 45, he’s ready to turn his dating life over to the pros. Yes, it’s time for Rickie to surrender to the matchmaking gods..or goddesses, as the case may be! Contrary to urban legend that goes something like this: all men under the age of 50 are looking for 25 year-olds. This is not the case with Rickie, my friends! He’s looking to meet lovelies up to 40, five years younger than him. So far so good. I’m already predicting great success for this reasonable and enlightened fellow. But wait!
Cut The Small TalkHow many times have you been on a date with someone you really wanted to know, but the chemistry just wasn’t there? Maybe you were nervous or your date never really opened up. You were two attractive, accomplished people with similar life goals, so what gives? It’s more than likely that the reason you weren’t able to connect with your date was something so unbearably simple it has eluded even the most experienced daters for centuries: the conversation was bad. There. We said it. It’s not that you’re a bad person – you just didn’t have the knowledge then that our executive matchmaking services are able to offer. Bad conversation is completely avoidable with the right knowledge and a little effort. Most people just get stuck in a loop of small talk and never evolve into a more meaningful dialogue.
Mixed SignalsMen are you wondering why women are not responding to your request for a second date? Here are some dating tips for why they might not be available to see you and my best matchmaking advice for finding love and dating women. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing. Bragging Have you ever tried to over impress your date with how wonderful you are? Telling women how much you make in high dollar figures, your large home, assets, people you know, everyone thinks you are wonderful, is a major turn-off. You may think this is flattering but most women do not. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing. Coming off desperate It is nice to compliment a woman;
Online DatingOnline daters beware: more options in the dating pool is not always better. While dating sites continue to boast unrealistic percentages of “success,” recent studies suggest the long-term effects of meeting online are actually detrimental to relationships. Aditi Paul, a PhD candidate at Michigan State University, reviewed answers from 2,923 respondents included in a longitudinal Stanford University study titled, “How Couples Meet and Stay Together.” Paul’s research compared rates of separation and marriage for couples who met online versus those who met offline. According to Paul’s research, 32 percent of unmarried couples broke up during the length of the study compared to 23 percent of offline couples. The trend continued among married couples; a whopping 68 percent of married couples who met online separated
Find Your Love LanguageEveryone understands the feeling of another person just not “getting it.” You might reside in the same city and speak the same language, but the meaning behind your words can often get lost in the emotion behind them. The key to communication is to get on the other person’s level and communicate in a way that matters to them. Dr. Gary Chapman has developed a theory that there are five love languages that dominate most major relationships. These languages determine how much value you assign to caring gestures and can even help you learn how to get through to someone who “speaks” a different language. Take the test to find out what your top two love languages are and don't be shy to share them with your partner, remember that we all have different ones, so if you don't tell your partner, you simply can't expect them to magically know,
CommandmentsThe Commandments Act like a lady This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively, it will make you look desperate and crazy. Do not drink too much on the first date Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could impair your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drinks maximum! Honor thy dating commitments When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner,
Biggest Mistakes Men MakeMen are you wondering why women are not responding to your request for a second date? Here are some dating tips for why they might not be available to see you and my best matchmaking advice for finding love and dating women. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing. Bragging Have you ever tried to over impress your date with how wonderful you are? Telling women how much you make in high dollar figures, your large home, assets, people you know, everyone thinks you are wonderful, is a major turn-off. You may think this is flattering but most women do not. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing. Coming off desperate It is nice to compliment a woman
Biggest Mistakes Women MakeAn excerpt from a Glamour article was sent to me by a friend of mine who thought addressing the subject matter may help a friend of hers who seems to be in a perpetual cycle of bad dates and dead-end romances. This is not the only girl I know with this problem. Another friend of mine could easily swing an “A” on a college exam, but can’t seem to make it past the third date with a guy. Keep the drinks to a minimum and your mouth zipped. Mystery is one of the keys to attractiveness. Beauty and brains are not the hindrance of these two acquaintances as they are college-educated, interesting, funny and beautiful; the whole package, right? Possibly, except, according to the article we have read, those qualities may not be sufficient when it comes to “wowing” a guy during date number one; the most crucial period of all.
Steve Jobs Can Help You DateThe Apple Empire dominates the tech world even today, so we couldn’t help but wonder, if Steve Jobs was right about what makes an entrepreneur successful. But what if this same concept was applied to relationships? Our matchmakers believe perseverance is part of what sets successful relationships apart from failed ones. From the time spent looking for that date to the actual hurdles that come between even the closest of partners, cool heads and a lot of patience are necessary to persevere as a couple. Replace the word “entrepreneurs” with the word “relationships,” and you can see how Jobs’ wisdom can be applied in your own life. So, what other love lessons can you learn from the tech visionary? Promote Your Best Qualities.
Why Men Fall in LoveFor one, our brains are hardwired differently, so the first rule of thumb is: don’t try to change him. What I mean by that is not giving up all hope that he will take your wardrobe advice or learn to take out the trash without you asking him to, but on a deeper level, men can not change the way they think, communicate or interpret your communication. Therefore, for peaceful relations with a man, learn how to talk to him to get what you want. If you don’t know where to start, there are many books out there to help you understand his brain and how what you say (or how you say it) may be impeding on the results of your goal. Here’s a hint: Effective communication is all in the delivery. Be nice. If a man’s been around long enough, he knows that a bitch at 25 is a shrew at 50.
Things Irresistible Men DoAttraction is the biggest stepping stone in any relationship. The biggest house, newest car and most successful career are all great, but hold little bearing when it comes to whether your date will actually find you attractive. There are a few traits we’ve noticed all women seem to love in a man – and these traits are surprisingly difficult to cultivate. The few men who do possess these qualities find their dating pools are much larger, which ultimately leads to more control over their own dating lives and an easier time finding the woman they have dreamed of. Want to become irresistible? Here are our recommendations: He Contributes Relationships are founded on the idea that each person brings something to the relationship.
Marry A MillionaireMother always said it’s just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man. But in many women’s eyes it’s easier. So if you are looking for ways to meet the millionaire of your dreams read on…. Besides being nice and donating your time you might even meet a fabulous successful single man on this venture. #1 Get an education. The affluent value a good education and if you want to make a man fall in love with you, be able to talk about current events and the arts. It’s not all about looks. Haven’t you ever seen a woman with a great guy and thought, how in the world did she get him? Now you know! #2 While you’re in school take some classes on business. Pay attention and learn how to run a company. The successful are very interested in money obviously, that’s why they have it. If you can discuss business and finances, you can peak his interest.
Keep Your Relationship Off Social MediaSocial media sharing always seems like a good idea at first. After all, it’s a way to catch up with old friends and share what’s happening in your lives. The key to social media is to use it sparingly. It’s fine to comment on photos and even share the occasional update about your own life, but excessive updates can actually be damaging to your life – and your relationship. Here are our matchmakers’ top reasons to keep your relationship off social media. Overcome False Validation It seems innocent to post a photo of a romantic table setting or even a selfie from your date. The whole point is to share something you appreciate, but what happens if your entire social media following ignores the post? Reaching an excessive number of “likes” and comments on all date-related posts puts a lot of pressure on your relationship.
Build an Instant ConnectionStep 1: Pick the Place Contrary to popular opinion, the location should be a place you and your date choose together. We recommend narrowing it down to a few places and then let your date make the final decision. This avoids awkward situations like mistakenly taking a vegetarian to a steak house. Be flexible in case your date has other ideas. Always have a secondary location in mind in the event that your date goes well and you want to spend more time together. Step 2: Say Your Date’s Name This is a subtle psychological trick that really works. Work your date’s name into the conversation a few times throughout the night. Using your date’s name helps build a deeply personal connection by recognizing their identity. This is the fastest way to get your date’s attention and is more likely to result in pleasant conversation for both parties.