Dating Tip #1 SMILE!
The Commandments
Act like a lady
This means being polite and following common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively, it will make you look desperate and crazy.
Act like a gentleman
This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Women admire and respect a man who still believes in chivalry. This includes being attentive and making her feel safe and letting her know that you respect her. Do not make any sex jokes too soon, that can make her feel uncomfortable, while you are just getting to know each other. Offer to get her an Uber to and from the date, specially if there will be drinks involved. Always be respectful to our ladies.
Do not drink too much on the first date
Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could impair your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drinks maximum!
Honor thy dating commandments
(Women)When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, if you suggest less than dinner, it will send a clear message that you are auditioning him and you don’t have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, you will know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date.
(Men) When you meet an introduction through us, it is very important that you stick to inviting the candidate to dinner, offer to get her an Uber, or let her know that you can reimburse her for the Uber (specially if there will be drinks involved) It is extremely important that you stand out from the rest, be a gentleman and walk her out to Uber or her car if she decides not to get an uber, its super important treat our ladies like royalty.
Don't talk about wanting any/more kids before you are in an intimate committed relationship
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that within the first few dates, is that they start talking about wanting to have kids way too soon, even before they are intimate. And YES there really is such thing as TOO SOON!
As a man you may not ask if she wants any/more kids unless you guys are in a monogamous relationship, or you have been in an intimate relationship, and you are considering making her the mother of your children. When you are asking her if she wants kids, what some women are hearing is…I might want to have kids with you. (In most cases, when/if she likes you, she will be under the impression that you would want her to be the mother of your children, when you are simply asking if she would want to have kids one day…You just planted a seed) The
As a woman don’t bring it up too soon, it makes you look desperate even if you are not (get to know him first.) Even when a man wants kids, he will NOT have them with just anyone, (which we are sure you would not either, otherwise you would have have many by now) if you come off pushy he will automatically shut down, and will become completely turned off. If you are just looking for someone to have children with this service is not for you, this service is for people who are looking for a committed relationship, our clients have way too much to
Don’t be a GOLD DIGGER or a SUGAR DADDY
(Women) If you are struggling financially do not tell him about it, or hint that you are in a financial bind, it will just turn him off completely! Never ask or hint for anything of monetary value. DO NOT EVER bring up the subject (Get a second job if needed and come back to us when you are back on your feet) We cater to eligible bachelors and bachelorettes that have their act together. Our clients don’t come to us to get Gold Diggers, they could get Gold Diggers on their own, our clients have no problem by supporting their girlfriend/fiancé or wife, but
(Men) We advice you to stay away from the subject of who you have helped in the past, or what you bought someone in the past, we also advice not to speak on the subject with someone that you are just getting to know, unless you are in a committed relationship with them. Once you are in a committed relationship, it is solely up to you to support someone or if you take them shopping or not.
This service is catered to people who are looking for committed relationships ONLY. We expect everyone to act
It is a club rule that flights are to be COACH not Business or First class
If and a man (client) and a woman (member) agree to meet up out of town. you both understand that, that it is a club rule that the man (client) purchases you a COACH roundtrip ticket, there are no exceptions. if you the
(Women) Once you have agreed to travel to meet, you may not miss your flight(s) and that you will not cancel your date(s) once you are there. Our clients are extremely busy and we are sure that they went out of their way to plan somethings for you guys to do. Make sure that you don’t cancel, be respectful and make sure to show up (if you don’t want to do something please let them know ahead of time) you wouldn’t want someone to be disrespectful to you once you have already gone out of your way to make things special for them. If you miss your flight(s) it is your sole responsibility to get yourself home.
(Men) We ask for you to purchase the ladies a roundtrip ticket (Coach) and get her a separate hotel room (not a suite with two rooms) so she feels completely comfortable, and doesn’t feel like anyone can just walk in, it is extremely important that our ladies feel comfortable and safe, as they are looking for serious relationships not a hookup, and we won’t allow anyone to make them feel otherwise. Once you have both gotten to know each other and are comfortable with each other of course that is solely up to you guys to decide, but if you are not sure just ask her.
Be engaging & always SMILE
Respond to his questions with positive energy and enthusiasm, and stay on neutral subjects, like the arts and current events in the beginning. A witty banter is very important. Ask interesting questions, be a good listener, as well as an active participant, and get to know him. Eye contact is important, too – let him look into those baby blues, big browns or gorgeous greens and make sure you look into his. Don’t forget to SMILE
Let the man take the lead and avoid bringing personal baggage to the table
Let the man lead by suggesting a restaurant and making plans for the first date, but let him know in a gracious manner, if you would rather go to another establishment or do something else.
In the beginning, it is best not to bring up any of your deep personal issues; he’s not your therapist (and you’re not his). This often happens with when excessive alcohol and/or lots chemistry. Deep, personal history is simply too much intimate/personal information, for him to process in the very beginning (it is very human to judge when you don’t know someone well enough). If you want to be in a healthy, loving, committed relationship it is important to let the man lead the conversation in the beginning and ask the questions. The conversation should become a ping-pong match, with the gentleman serving and you responding with information about yourself when he asks.
Do not speak of any other romantic relationships on your first couple dates
Men & Women don’t want to hear about their competition just as you don’t want to hear about yours. Focus on the date at hand. men/women want to date someone who is trust worthy, in whom they can confide in. If a gentleman/lady questions you about other relationships on a first date just reply with, “That’s unimportant. What is important is that I’m here with you now.” (don’t forget to SMILE) It’s helpful if you don’t have your ex’s name tattooed on your arm.
Return calls promptly
It’s important to return a gentleman’s call within 24 hours on weekdays, or within 72 hours on weekends or holidays, if you really can’t get away for just a couple minutes, shoot a text and let them know when is a good time to talk. Busy men become perturbed if they don’t hear back from you within that time frame. They will lose interest in you and move on to the next girl, if you do not return their calls in a timely fashion. (Remember the
Always return matchmakers calls or text, if you stop responding you may be removed from our database (or membership may be revoked) this also includes if you don’t reach out of back to your match after you agreed.
(If Interested) Express some Interest
Don’t play hard to get if you like him/her. A man/woman likes genuine compliments just as much as you do (and maybe even more) so don’t be afraid to tell him he’s handsome (or tell her how beautiful she is), interesting or funny. Offering to cook a meal for him is an exceptional, appreciative gesture. If you are not a great cook, order from your favorite take out. But do not offer to outright pay for something: once a woman touches money/credit card in front of a male she becomes masculine energy, which is undesirable for monogamous men, at least the men in our service. Once you are in a committed relationship, and its his birthday, paying for small thoughtful things in his presence is acceptable.
Do not become intimate on the first date
If you’re interested in him/her, a hug and kiss must suffice. We suggest taking it slow and getting to know your perspective mate really well and until you are both monogamous. NEVER assume that you are monogamous, unless he asks you to be monogamous, and is exclusive with just you.
Do not talk about ANY other dating service
If you are a part of any other dating service or dating app, do not bring that up and if you are asked, diffuse the conversation and tell him/her that you cannot talk about that since its part of our terms of service, and you are not to speak or ask about any other services. Or try to play matchmaker with any of our clients.
Don't ask for pictures (Last name or social media) right away
In order to remain in our club you may not ask for pictures or send any pictures before meeting, for privacy reasons, just know that not all of our clients get them. We have different packages for everyone, if somebody gets pushy or asks for them or for your last name during first and second date, you must let us know ASAP. (Through email) That is against Club rules and we will make sure that our Clients and Members/Candidates follow them.
Find out what your top 2 love languages are
We require everyone in the service to find out what their top two love languages are, with our experience it is important not only to know what our top two are, but to also share them with our significant other, it is important for you two to know what each others Love Languages are, to be able to fulfill one another.
5 Love Languages Test
Do NOT drink and drive
Do NOT drink and drive, if you have been drinking you should take an Uber back home (if you are a male we advise that you get your date an Uber home and take one yourself) if she refuses that is her choice to make, as it is your choice to make as well.
You are both adults and you are fully responsible if anything happens.
You may not ask anyone or talk about previous matches
Do NOT talk to your date about ANY previous matches, this also includes you NOT asking your date about any previous matches through our service or any other service. If you guys run out of things to talk about, talk about upcoming trips that you may like to take or have in mind, or this would be a great time to talk about your top 2 Love Languages.If someone starts telling you or asking about it let us know ASAP! We take this very seriously and this is to stay completely confidential.
We have a ZERO tolerance for anyone to body shame any of our ladies
Under NO circumstance may you make a negative comment about a woman’s body, whether you feel like she is fishing for a compliment or you feel that she needs to work on something, or has gained a little weight, or feel as if plastic surgery may help with something. It is completely unacceptable and we have a ZERO tolerance for it, if we find out that you have body shamed, any of our ladies your membership may be revoked.
We have a ZERO tolerance dating preference shaming
You may not try to shame anyone for their dating preferences/styles or make them feel bad about the type that they usually date/or have dated in the past, regardless of physical appearance, age, size, ethnicity, religion, hair color, skin color, sexual orientation, if this doesn't work for you or it makes you feel insecure/uncomfortable, be respectful but there is no need to make anyone feel bad feel judged for what they were/are typically attracted to, as we expect them to be respectful to your preferences as well, this is a safe place for EVERYONE and we stand by it.
Under no circumstance will you contact us after business hours or on weekends
Under NO circumstance may you contact our Matchmakers or anyone from the membership team after business hours. It is extremely important that you respect our teams time off. Our business hours are Monday-Friday between 9:00 A.M. — 6:00 P.M. EST Monday through Friday, except for holidays as we will be closed. Non paying Members/Candidate will be fined between $500 and/or may be removed from our database.
(Women)You may not contact our Matchmakers regarding anything other than Matchmaking, you are to treat our Matchmakers with respect at all times, and please don’t contact them about a potential job that you are looking for, or trying to get an investor for something, unless you have retained us to help with that, you may not ask any of the Matchmakers for any other contacts. You may be fined $500 and your membership may be revoked, you understand that if a matchmaker decides to represent you for free, they are under no circumstances working for you, or your employee, you are to be professional at all times.
You may not act petty or be dramatic
You may not be petty or start un-necessary drama with any of our clients, members, candidates, or matchmakers, we understand that something can seem bigger than it is, in the heat of the moment, but the last thing that we will tolerate is someone who loves drama, gossip or start nonsense, we are all busy and no need for anyone to deal with someone who lacks emotional intelligence, if this happens more than once, your membership may be revoked, this is a place where everyone has to be respectful to each other and their time.
Under no circumstance may you share any of our clients, members/candidates”information
Privacy is very important to us. For this reason, we have created a Non Disclosure policy that describes our collection, and disclosure practices regarding any personal information that we provide to you about clients, members/candidates, or affiliates, by signing below you agree that you will not provide any private information (this includes names, phone numbers, and photos) to anyone, unless you have our written authorization or your membership will be revoked, or we may prosecute you if you violate our confidentiality and it costs us anything.
Breaking our Commandments/being disrespectful or canceling on someone last minute, may get your membership revoked and there will be no refunds
Breaking the club commandments is a HUGE form disrespect not only the other person, but to the service as well. Everybody’s time is valuable regardless of what they do for a living, or how much they make, we consider last minute cancelation, or a no-show extremely disrespectful to the other person and to the service, and it may get your membership revoked and there will be no refunds.
We are extremely protective over our members/candidates (women) & our clients (men) and it is why we have certain club rules that we expect everyone to follow, if we find out that someone is braking our rules, and disrespecting the club or someone from the club, we have the right to revoke their membership.
